Shame on you?

When the enemy convinced Eve to eat that first fruit; consume that first knowledge of evil. What he really did was introduce the concept of shame. They were ashamed of their sin. They were ashamed of their nudity.
They hid from the embrace of the Lord, intentionally, separating themselves from  God. When questioned, their shame caused them to commit another sin: lies. They utilized sin to house their shame, erecting walls to keep out the light of God.
Genesis 3:6-13

This is how the enemy wins 

This process often breaks down to a moment in which we do, are apart of, or are subject to  something we are ashamed of and then are forced to make a decision between two obvious choices.

1: Take our brokenness to the Lord as a child bringing a broken toy before a loving father to see it completely restored. 

2. Hide the brokenness; ashamed of whatever perceived failure caused it, learn to live without the joy of restoration, and even convince ourselves that we deserve to live without healing or restoration. 

In the second option we cripple ourselves with fear, pride, and shame. As a result, we open a window, within our pain, to the enemy. There is no "empty space" within us. If we close a part of ourselves off from God, we close it off from his light; which only leaves darkness. 

 

God doesn't ask us to confess our sins to one another to torture us, or make us feel bad about ourselves.  It is to flush out those "dark rooms" with locked doors. Those rooms, in which, we harbor our "junk" and allow Him to let the light in. 

Where there is light, there is no darkness, and where there is darkness there is no light. 

So when you find yourself drawing circles around situations and specific sins as things that are less forgivable to God; please remember that you do not have that authority, and if it sounds right in your head, it means that you're believing lies.
God sees a child with a broken toy. His pleasure is to bring restoration to whatever is broken. His pleasure is to bring restoration to you and use your pain as a testimony of His adoration for his children.